After throwing my fifth joint birthday party for my two boys–this time blending Legend of Zelda and Jurassic World as a theme–I realized I have tried and true rules when it comes to hosting and planning events. These rules fit kids parties, baby showers, and yes, even weddings. These are the 5 rules I use to plan, and you should use them when it comes to your wedding day too.
Intentional guest list
The number is not important–big or small, what matters with your guest list is do you actually know and like those you’re inviting. DO NOT invite people out of obligation. You want to be excited about those attending, and sad about any that might have to miss.
Decor: Impactful Over Plentiful
You don’t need to fill every corner to make a statement. One impactful piece—something that sets the tone when guests enter—carries more weight than dozens of tiny details scattered around. If you love the little details and have time or budget for them, go for it. But remember: a single wow-moment, paired with simple accents, is what people will actually notice.
Good Food Doesn't Have to Mean FANCY
To this day, one of the best receptions I’ve ever attended wasn’t “fancy” at all. It was a laid-back beach wedding where, after the cake cutting, a groomsman made a pizza run. Y’all… nothing beats dancing barefoot in the sand, formal dress and all, with a slice of Domino’s in hand. Food matters. Your guests will remember being well-fed more than being impressed. Prioritize food that feels like you, and don’t underestimate the joy of a late-night snack or a take-home treat. (Honestly—one of the best investments you’ll make, right after photography wink wink.)
Lean Into What You Love
I always encourage couples to bring their personalities into their wedding design. I’m a fan of themes, but really, it’s about meaning. From my own wedding, we pulled inspiration from Phantom of the Opera. Because the story is French, that led to subtle French touches in our décor—something I would have never thought of if we had stuck only to a color palette. When you start with what’s personal, the rest unfolds with more creativity and heart.
Pacing Matters
Guests might not notice every carefully chosen detail, but they will notice when the day feels disjointed. Pay attention to transitions. For example: at your reception, instead of entering the room and waiting awkwardly for your first dance to be announced, consider making your grand entrance to your dance song. You’re already the center of attention—flow right into your first dance and savor that seamless, joy-filled moment.
