The drive was uneventful. I spent most of it awkwardly lying in the back seat of Colton’s truck, and as the nurses had told me to keep my hips propped up and we had forgotten our pillows back in San Antonio, I was using various bags and jackets to support me. Colton drove the whole way with his flashers on, both of us making various phone calls while charging our dying phones (yep, left the Iphone charger in San Antonio too, thankfully we had a car one), and I kept reminding Colton to remain calm. By the time we reached Stephenville (about three and a half hours later, the nurses had reminded Colton no less than 5 times to drive the speed limit, not over) I thought I was having contractions seven minutes apart, or my back was hurting from the awkward position.
We checked into admitting, which told us to wait (no frantic look towards the woman whose water has broken), so Colton ran out to park the car and I called Fredericksburg to let them know we had arrived safely. They immediately recognized who I was and I heard cheering from the ladies in the background, they told us that they were praying for us, and I promised that we’d have the next baby there—did I mention we felt bad about leaving?
Colt returned and we started the check-in process. Colton asked if he had time to go to the restroom and bounded off, the admittance lady inquired if this was my first pregnancy, I was used to this question so I quickly responded with “Yes, first pregnancy, no miscarriages”. Her response? “Oh, I was just asking because he looked nervous”.
Then we made the hike to the maternity ward and I once again donned the awkward gown and was hooked up to the monitors. It was after 3 PM at this point, at least six hours since my water broke. Now doctors, I learned, don’t like you to go too long after your membranes rupture without the pregnancy progressing. I was still only 4cm, I had been 3cm dilated before we left for the wedding (could have totally made it).
The fact that my labor wasn’t moving along by itself meant that I would be receiving some help. The reason for this is because once the water breaks the baby is no longer protected from the outside world and the risk of infection for both of us increases with every passing hour. This meant Pitocin would be added to my IV. Pitocin is a synthetic form oxytocin, which is responsible for the contractions and bonding, but because it’s synthetic, it’s not as easy on the body as the real thing.
I had intended to do as much of the labor as possible naturally. I wasn’t against drugs, I used to be all for them right off the bat. However, because I had stayed so active during my pregnancy, I was so small, and I take after my mom who handled all five of her labors really well, I thought I’d give a natural birth a go.
They started the Pitocin around five or so but the contractions didn’t really start to kick in (become noticeable) until after seven. The night shift of nurses had taken over for the day, and we had two sweet girls to take care of us. Did I mention that we were the only ones in the maternity ward? Yep, so we did get a bit pampered with the amount of attention we received. But I digress, by seven the contractions began to demand my attention more, nothing bad, but slowly I did have to do that breathing thing you always see in the movies and you go to birthing classes for.
We did not make it to our birthing class; it was scheduled to start the day after I went into labor. Oh well.
Progressively I felt more discomfort, the nurses would try to ask me questions and I would hold up my hand so they would know I wasn’t terribly interested in their question at that moment until the contraction subsided and then we could proceed with the discussion. More annoying thing to have during a contraction? Your blood pressure cuff deciding that it needs to see how my blood pressure is doing. Somehow I see it recording this during a contraction, might alter the results a bit (not to mention I apparently have tiny arms and therefore the cuff was too big for me and yes, I did take it off and chunk to the side of my bed at one point because it kept falling off).
Now I had had lofty ambitions for my delivery room experience. Like I mentioned earlier, all signs seemed to show that I would have an easy labor. I was tall (which apparently meant it would be easier), I was in shape, my pregnancy was easy, my mentality was super chill in regards to the pregnancy (my birth plan was Hakuna Matata). I had envisioned myself bringing a yoga mat with me to the hospital and doing some asanas during contractions so I would focus on my breathing and pose rather than the pain. Did this happen? Not remotely.
For one, they put an IV in you almost the second you arrive. Now, I have nothing against needles, I happen to always watch when they put an IV in my arm, and ever since I went to the ER with food poisoning when I was 17, I consider IVs something that just makes the world better. So I’m not being biased when I say that this IV was annoying. Perhaps it was because of how long I had it in my arm (it wasn’t completely removed until Monday morning—I arrived on Saturday afternoon remember). But mainly it was because of how limited I felt with that arm, I couldn’t bend my wrists, so no yoga would have occurred, even if I had brought a mat.
Anyways, continued with the breathing thing, trying various styles, hoped my yoga experience would kick-in and help (it didn’t), tried various positions in hopes to get more comfortable. Colton at one point told me to “breathe longer”, to which I replied,
“Stick an alien in your torso, which decreases your lung capacity, and then tell me to breathe longer“
I’m happy to say that this was the meanest thing I said throughout the process. And yes, we promptly started laughing after I rebuked him with this, like I said, the contractions weren’t that bad, yet.
February 5th, 2019 at 2:03 AM
[…] March 15, 2014February 5, 2019 byraclaborn It’s hard to believe it has nearly been two weeks since we had Ames. He’s 11 days old as I’m writing this, although for me it might as well be 12 days since I went into labor on Saturday morning. It had started rather simply. My sister texted me from her room across the hall, asking if I wanted to grab some breakfast at Chick-fil-a while the boys (AKA our husbands) were at the men’s Bible study. I was game, but when I rolled out of bed at 9 AM that morning I noticed that where I had been laying on the bed was a bit damp, as were my shorts. My doctor had informed me that I would know when my water broke because liquid would not stop coming (TMI?) and indeed it wasn’t. I quickly changed and walked down the stairs where my sister was already dressed and gave the awkward “I think my water broke” statement. We both just stared at each other a bit, not quite sure what to do. “I suppose I should call Colt” finally came from my mouth, and I did. Did he answer? Nope. The thought I’m nine months pregnant, you answer when I call you! shot through my head. He texted me that he couldn’t talk so I texted him. Apparently, he had just joked to the other men that my water could break any second, so yes, I blame him. We scrambled to throw everything we needed into the car, bringing all of our wedding clothes because I was determined to make it to our best friend’s wedding even if my water had broken—my contractions hadn’t started as far as I could tell, so I could handle a 20-minute ceremony. I filled the hour’s drive to Fredericksburg with calls to multiple doctors, hospitals, and my mom. See, the doctor that delivered my baby was my third doctor during this pregnancy (one confirmed, one was in France, and then one to deliver), so I needed to get some information from varying sources. The doctor was in Stephenville—nearly 4 hours away from San Antonio, but he had told us that if I went into labor while in San Antonio to try to make it to the hospital in Fredericksburg (he used to practice there and highly recommended it). We arrived at the hospital and I was quickly taken and hooked up to monitors (after putting on that awkward hospital gown of course). They had to test to see if my water had actually broken or if the little alien inside of me had simply delivered a massive kick to my bladder (I looked at my nurse and thought this is no “accident” I assure you). If it revealed my water hadn’t broken I could leave, if it hadn’t, well I would be stuck in the hospital even though I wasn’t feeling any contractions (but was having them every 30 minutes according to the machines). Colton had popped out to grab some snacks, it was around 11 at this point and we had both been on an adrenaline rush at this point, although he had had breakfast, me? I had managed to scarf down a banana and snack bar (the nurse did give me Jell-O, which got brownie points with me). While he was out she asked me some routine questions, including “Do you feel like anyone is abusing or harming you?”, all I could think was don’t be sarcastic, don’t be sarcastic, don’t be sarcastic. So sure enough, my water had broken. Some will say it was because I did too much to help decorate for the wedding the night before, others would suggest that it was caused by excessive laughter during a game of Curses, the bride says it’s because it’s my child and therefore a brat who would come on her wedding day. Whatever the cause, I was officially not allowed to leave the hospital, which meant no wedding, which meant I was pouting like a toddler and tried to work any angle I could to leave for the wedding (I could totally make the ceremony and be back in time to deliver right?). Our nurse returned with another option, I could leave BUT not for the wedding (I think I was more upset about this than the bride; she was more upset that she couldn’t be at the hospital when I delivered). We could, if we wanted, sign an AMA (against medical advice), drive to Stephenville (3 hours away), and deliver at the hospital in Stephenville with my doctor (and hopefully not on the side of the road by ourselves). She later revealed that this idea came from another nurse, as she was against it because we were “just so cute” so she wanted us to deliver there. After a conversation with the on-call doctor while another RN talked to my doctor on the phone, we decided to hit the road and make the drive. Although, after we left we regretted it a bit—the nurses were super sweet and requested that we inform them the minute we arrived at the hospital (or just call them every hour until we arrived to let them know we were OK). To be continued. . . […]